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Japanese culture and customs 101
Correct manners are very important among the Japanese. Also, as a foreigner, you should be familiar with at least the most basic rules.
Entering a Japanese House
When entering a Japanese house, outdoor shoes are always replaced by slippers at the doorway (“genkan”). If it is not your house, slippers are provided by the host. When entering a room with a tatami floor, slippers are removed as well. Tatami should only be stepped on with socks or bare feet.
There are two styles of toilets in Japan: Japanese and Western.
Public washrooms are often equipped with both styles, although some older facilities might have only Japanese-style toilets, while some newer facilities might have only Western-style ones. The toilets in most public homes and hotels are Western style.
Western-style toilets in Japan often feature options such as a heated seat, a built-in shower and dryer for your behind, and an automatic lid opener. Both styles of toilets usually have two flush modes, “small” (小) and “large” (大), which differ in the amount of water used.
When using the washroom in a private home, you will often find toilet slippers used exclusively for inside the washroom. Leave your usual slippers outside the washroom, and do not forget to change back into them afterwards to avoid an often committed cultural faux pas.
Taking a Bath
In Japan, the main purpose of taking a bath, besides cleaning your body, is to relax at the end of the day. The typical Japanese bathroom usually consists of two rooms: an entrance room where you undress, which is equipped with a sink, and the actual bathroom, which is equipped with a shower and a deep bath tub. The toilet is almost always located in an entirely separate room.
When bathing Japanese style, you are supposed to first rinse your body outside the bath tub with a washbowl. Afterwards, you enter the tub, which is used for soaking only. The bath water tends to be relatively hot for Western bathing standards. After soaking, leave the tub and clean your body with soap. Make sure that no soap gets into the bathing water. Once you have finished cleaning and rinsed all the soap off your body, enter the bath tub once more for a final soaking. After leaving the tub, the water is usually left for the next member of the house. Washing and rinsing is done outside of the actual bathtub to keep the bath water clean for all members of the house.
Eating and Dining
In Japan, you say “itadakimasu” (“I gratefully receive”) before eating and “gochisosama (deshita)” (“Thank you for the meal”) after finishing the meal.
Individual vs. Shared Dishes
It is not uncommon in private households and in certain restaurants such as an izakaya, a type of drinking establishment, to share several dishes of food at the table rather than serving each person an individual dish. When eating from shared dishes, move some food from the shared plates onto your own with the opposite end of your chopsticks or with serving chopsticks that may be provided for that purpose.
Some table rules:
- Blowing your nose in public, and especially at the table, is considered bad manners.
- Emptying your dishes to the last grain of rice is considered good manners.
- Talking about toilet related and similarly unappetizing topics during or before a meal is not appreciated by most people.
- Burping is considered bad manners.
- After eating, try to move all your dishes back to the same position they were at before the start of the meal. This includes replacing the lids on dishes and putting your chopsticks on the chopstick holder or back into their paper slip.
When drinking alcoholic beverages, it is customary to serve each other, rather than pouring your own beverage. Periodically check your friends’ cups and refill their drinks if if you see that their cups are getting empty. Likewise, if someone wants to serve you more alcohol, you should quickly empty your glass and hold it towards that person.
While it is considered bad manners to become obviously drunk in restaurants and other public places, other types of restaurants such as izakayas are often a little more relaxed, as long as you do not bother other guests.
Do not start drinking until everybody at the table is served and the glasses are raised for a drinking salute, which is usually “kampai.” Avoid using “chin chin” when making a toast since, in Japanese, this expression refers to the male genitals.
A Basic Outline of the Culture
Basically, the historical fabric of Japan revolves around agriculture and a close relationship with nature. Looking at the Japanese character for “rice field,” which is 田, we can see that it is a square equally divided into four parts. This represents the way that, in the past, peasants were given parcels of land to work. This was equal to their life, with rice being both food and currency. Each man worked his field and respected his fellow man, and without that structure, society would not have been possible since there were only kings and peasants in the social structure at the time. Working a rice field was a social status, a destiny, and an occupation all in one.
Today, this influence can be seen in rural agrarian Japan as well as in the many festivals, national holidays, and traditions still present in society. Along with this agrarian tendency was the deep respect for nature, which, in its simplest way, can be seen in the tatami mat. Farmers, having left over rice fiber, developed the use of this fiber into flooring, which is now a fine art. Importing ideas from China lead to the use of chopsticks made of bamboo that grew on the side of rice fields as well as the use of bamboo for a samurai’s armor, a kendo sword, and many other common and uncommon items. Even though Japan’s cultural whaling tradition is now under international scorn, in the past, every part of the whale was used, including the leftover bones, to make tools and implements. Even today, Japanese have a close relationship with nature, and for example, one of the most popular hobbies for retired people is mountain climbing.